When did you realize that fighting for your marriage was useless?
Many people ask me questions about “my” divorce. I am not divorced, I never have been, and (God willing), I will never have cause to be and never will be. Truth be told, like many on this thread, I cannot imagine how bad it would have to get before I realized my marriage was not worth preserving any longer. Just as the heart surgeon need not have suffered a heart attack to do his/her job, neither must a divorce lawyer have gone through a divorce to his/her job.
I’m grateful for your question because it’s a subject you would expect me to have thought long and hard about, but I haven’t (because I don’t like the subject any more than you do). But I will remedy that, starting now. It will be a difficult subject to face, contemplate, research, and form an opinion on, but still a worthwhile question to address.