Why weren’t you and your ex-spouse as good as friends when you were married as you are now that you are divorced?

Clearly not all divorces result in ex-spouses being friends.

But for some, the split, the separation helps the members of the former couple feel safer, freer, less restricted, less limited, less pressured, less deprecated by the other.

In a way, it’s a twist on the old aphorism “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

The strain of the differences, the worries, and conflicts either decreases or even disappears. This allows the two people to focus on and appreciate each other’s qualities instead of their faults. They can be friendly toward each other precisely because they know they aren’t “bound” to each other in a miserable marriage anymore. They can like each other for the good qualities without having to suffer the bad qualities anymore.

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