How can I calm my nerves? I hired an attorney to help with my child custody case against my BPD ex. I’m so scared of what he will do when he finds out.
- Know that hiring a good lawyer (a good lawyer, not just any lawyer) is one of the smartest things you could do for you, your nerves, and your children. Talk to people who didn’t hire an attorney in your circumstances, and they’ll tell you that you’ve done one of the best things that can be done. Great first step.
- You’ll never fully rid yourself of the ignorance of the legal system and legal processes. So you will never fully rid yourself of the anxiety that flows from it. But (in no particular order):
- getting a good attorney and listening to what your attorney tells you and doing as your attorney directs;
- educating yourself on the process (it’s nothing like you think it is, so the more you know about how it works, the better you’ll be able to navigate it and leverage it to your and your children’s benefit);
- having faith in God;
- leaning on friends and family for support as necessary (without wearing out your welcome of course); and
- staying vigilant
is the best medicine I can prescribe.
And one more thing: nothing helps you get your mind off your own plight and worries better than helping others in need and in pain.
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