How can you go about child custody when the other parent only wants full custody for the child support benefits and barely is with the child?
- you have proof (or at least sufficiently credible evidence) that the other parent wants and seeks sole custody solely for the child support benefits and has no desire or intent to provide care and supervision for the child; and
- you have proof (or at least sufficiently credible evidence) that you are a parent who is fit to exercise and be awarded sole custody of the child,
that is probably enough to win the argument.
If you do not have proof/evidence that the other parent wants and seeks sole custody solely for the child support benefits and has no desire or intent to provide care and supervision for the child, and if you and the other parent are both more or less equally fit parents, then the court could:
- award primary or sole custody to the woman (I know it’s not politically correct to say so, but I submit to you that it’s something everyone in the legal system knows but is too afraid/embarrassed to acknowledge). “Wait,” you may ask, “if both parents are equally fit parents, why not award joint equal custody?” Great question. Sad (but true) answer: because there is an undeniable bias in favor of the mother and against the father in the application of child custody laws and the award of custody; or
- that the court awards joint equal or joint but less than equal custody to both parents,
but odds are against an award of joint equal or even joint custody (although awards or joint or joint equal custody are growing and slowly but surely becoming the norm; indeed, I believe I will live to see a presumption of joint equal custody become the standard in most, if not all of the United States). If the court is bent on not awarding joint equal custody and it’s a choice between two women or two men, then it can and likely will come down to questions of whether one parent has historically been the child’s primary caregiver, which parent has more money, a bigger/better residence, lives in a better neighborhood, and other distinctions that are not meaningful.