If you did everything you could to ensure that your marriage got off to the best start possible, but divorce has reared its ugly head through no fault of your own, the best thing you can do when you get ambushed by divorce is to go see a good (a good, not just any) divorce lawyer as soon as possible to learn about the divorce process and find out what you must do to succeed in going through the divorce process.
It’s all but impossible to go through divorce unscathed, but there are many other things you can do to ensure that you do not get unnecessarily burned by divorce.
And talking to a good divorce lawyer as soon you believe it may be wise is the best advice I can possibly give as a first step.
My other form of the best divorce advice is for those who are contemplating marriage and wanting to avoid divorce: make sure that you are sufficiently mature and emotionally prepared and disciplined to take that step and stick with the commitment. You do not have to be perfect, you don’t have to be invincible, but you do have to be prepared to experience married life, both its agonies as well as its ecstasies. People in successful marriages will tell you it has not always been easy and that it has been heartbreaking at times, but on balance it is far more of a benefit than a burden. Still, to be successful in marriage means you must be prepared to pay the costs a good marriage demands.
Our divorce rate of around 50% is far too high. Many people believe that leaving their current marriage to find a better relationship is the solution. It’s not. If you’re miserable in your current relationship, and you’re not married to a physically or emotionally abusive spouse, the problems in the marriage are likely of you and your spouse’s own creation, and only you and your spouse can fix them together. It is much easier to repair a struggling but otherwise viable marriage than it is to go through destroying that marriage and trying to start over again.
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