Everyone Loses When Courts Don’t Hear From the Child Directly
I. The Illusion of Protection In Utah child custody disputes, courts have (but should not have) a choice: hear from the child directly or receive their life story through a…
Digital Housekeeping Before Divorce in Utah: Why You Must Change Your Passwords First
Before you file for divorce, your spouse may already have access to more of your life than you realize—your emails, financial accounts, personal documents, and even your private communications with…
“When in Doubt, Grant the Protective Order” Is Not a Legal Principle
In discussions about protective orders and alleged domestic violence, I often hear a familiar refrain: “Protective orders should be granted liberally even when the question comes down to one person’s…
The Muzzled Meadow
I. The Founding TraumaIn the Meadow, everyone agreed on one thing: voices were dangerous.It hadn’t always been so. Long ago, animals spoke plainly. Some spoke well, somepoorly, some too much.…
Why Courts Should Explain How They Hear Children in Custody Cases
Evidence, Record-Making, and the Limits of Testimonial Substitution Courts, lawyers, and commissioners in child custody and parent-time disputes often operate on an unspoken assumption: that the only acceptable way to…
Law Needs Fewer Hired Guns and More Straight Shooters: Why the Legal Profession Must Stop Treating Argumentation as a Contest and Start Treating It as a Path to Truth
Plato’s irritation with the Sophists was never about style. It was about moral purpose. As Jonny Thomason discusses in his Big Think essay (it’s a short read and well worth your time), Plato’s frustration…
Even the Best Divorce Lawyer Can’t Turn a Weak Case Into a Strong One
There’s a persistent belief in the divorce and custody world that the “right” divorce and child custody lawyer can work miracles. That if you hire someone clever enough, aggressive enough,…
Utah Law Does Not Bar Children From Testifying—Even When a PGAL Is Appointed
Utah law allows a child to be represented by an attorney—either a guardian ad litem (GAL) when there are allegations of child abuse, or by a private guardian ad litem…
How to Protect Your Child From Being Manipulated Into Making False Accusations During a Custody Dispute
A candid, experience-based guide for parents who need the truth without varnish or theatrics. Not every case involves manipulation. Not every professional fails. But when these problems occur—and they do—the…
If Nobody Agrees That Your Spouse Is the Villain, It May Be You
In Utah divorces, casting your spouse as the villain without proof can wreck your credibility and your custody case. Self-reflection and evidence—not drama—win the day. Divorce brings out strong emotions.…
How to Protect Yourself from False Abuse Accusations During Custody Exchanges and Other Interactions
False allegations of abuse—whether physical, emotional, or “stalking”—are among the most destructive things that can happen to a parent in a custody dispute. Once the words “abuse” and/or stalking is/are…
The False Economy of the Cheap Divorce Lawyer
A cheap divorce lawyer almost always costs more in the long run. Low-fee lawyers keep prices low by cutting corners (reusing boilerplate, outsourcing analysis and judgment, and rushing cases to…
The Absentee Lawyer Problem: When Your Attorney Isn’t Being Fully Responsible for the Work
The Absentee Lawyer Problem: When Your Attorney Isn’t Being Fully Responsible for the Work A growing number of divorce clients are unknowingly paying for work their lawyer never actually did.…
Understanding Judicial Discretion and Its Abuses in Utah Family Law
Utah judges and commissioners can—and many often do—bend or ignore laws/rules and facts. Learn how this happens, why appellate oversight rarely corrects it, and what litigants can do to protect…
Pushing Back Against Judicial Micromanagement: Divorce Courts Need to Enforce Law, Not Parent the Parents
Utah divorce and family courts sometimes wander into nanny-court social engineering, issuing orders that treat parents like fools and/or helpless children who can’t be trusted to act sensibly without judicial…
My Spouse Has Disappeared During the Divorce Process, How Can I Find Him/Her?
In Utah, you can still get divorced if your spouse disappears, but only after proving you made a diligent search and using court-approved alternative service of process methods. Missing spouse…
Is the Term “Neurodivergent” Being Bandied About in Family Law Circles as a Way of Manipulating the Courts?
Yes. The term “neurodivergent” is increasingly being used in family law not only as a genuine descriptive category but also as a rhetorical and strategic tool. Here’s how it’s being manipulated: As…
The Most Common Non-Legal Mistakes Divorce Clients Make That Complicate Their Cases
One’s divorce case rarely falls apart just because it is legally or factually weak. More often, it’s the divorcing parties themselves who complicate their cases through avoidable mistakes. Courts in…
Why Are Divorce Cases Often Delayed?
After 28 years of divorce practice (as of the date this post is shared), I've watched countless cases that could have and should resolve in months drag on for a…
Should I Go Through My Child’s Phone or Other Devices During the Divorce?
Why this comes up Divorce makes parents hyper-vigilant. A child’s smartphone can feel like the master key to what’s really happening—messages with the other parent, photos, social media, location history.…
My Spouse is a Criminal, How Can I Avoid His Downfall?
My Spouse is a Criminal, How Can I Avoid His Downfall?
When people discover that his or her husband or wife is committing crimes or has been convicted of crimes, they often panic. One of the first questions we hear in…
Can You “Buy” a Quicker Divorce Settlement in Utah?
Will offering your spouse more money guarantee a quick Utah divorce settlement? Sometimes. But it often backfires. Here’s how Utah divorce law treats lopsided settlements, when “buying peace” makes sense,…
State v. Hansen – 2025 UT App 121
State v. Hansen - 2025 UT App 121 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH,Appellee, v. STEPHANIE HANSEN,Appellant. Opinion No. 20220178-CA Filed August 14, 2025 Fourth District Court, Provo…
Should I Tell My Spouse Before I File for Divorce? Or Will That Put Me at a Disadvantage?
Telling your spouse you are considering divorce before filing can either open the door to a cooperative, low-drama split—or give them time to get the jump on you and hurt…
Should I Forgive My Spouse for Abusing Me and/or Our Children?
Forgiveness is a deeply personal decision, and in the context of abuse it can be a life-altering one. But understand that “forgiving” your spouse for abusing you or your children…
What Are the Biggest Challenges Men Face During Divorce, and Why Do Some Believe the System Is Unfair to Them?
It is not a matter of beliefs that men are generally (not in every single case, but generally) treated unfairly in divorce. It is a fact. This is why many…
How to Handle Child Custody When the Mother Is Negatively Influencing the Child?
Although they shouldn't do it, courts will generally treat mothers and fathers differently simply based upon sex. Sexual discrimination, to put it bluntly. Not all courts do this, but many…
Do You Live in Salt Lake, Summit, or Tooele County and Are Being Denied Parent-time by a Non-compliant Co-parent?
Well, then, I have good news and bad news. Good news: you can file a motion with the court to seek relief. Bad news: prepare to wait a while before…
How to Handle Child Custody When the Mother Is Negatively Influencing the Child?
Do you want the truth? Or, more accurately, the truth as I see it, having practiced divorce and family law for the past 28 years as of the date I…
If the Other Parent Is Withholding Parent-Time, Can I Bypass Having to Deal With Him/Her and Pick Up Our Child After School Instead?
If the other parent of your child is withholding court-ordered visitation (often now called “parent-time”) with the child from you, can you solve this problem by circumventing/bypassing having to pick…
How Common Are Cases Where Divorce Proceedings Take a Dramatic Turn Because of Unexpected Evidence, Like in Court Dramas?
In my 28 years’ experience, it’s not common. Indeed, if divorce cases took dramatic turns routinely, they couldn’t be considered dramatic turns. That stated, very true a skilled divorce lawyer…
Is It Possible to Divorce With Dignity?
Divorce is rarely an easy process. Even in fairly amicable situations, emotions can run high and the temptation to engage in dirty tricks can be strong. However, it is possible—and…
Can My Spouse Keep My Property After I Have Been Removed or Moved Out of the Marital Home? By Braxton Mounteer
This is a common and important question that arises in a divorce. If you are out of the marital home—whether by court order (such as a protective order) or voluntarily—and…
Garner v. Kadince – 2025 UT App 80 – AI, hallucination, fake precedent, sanctions
Garner v. Kadince - 2025 UT App 80 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MATTHEW GARNER, Petitioner, v. KADINCE, INC.; JARED HALES; AND AARON VENEZIA, Respondents. Per Curiam Opinion No. 20250188-CA…
Protecting Yourself From a Spouse Who Has No Regard for Ethics, the Law, or Morality. By Braxton Mounteer
A fair and equitable divorce is the best that any decent person who goes through the divorce process can honestly hope for. If you know you that you will be dealing…
Yes, Equal Custody Is a Great Idea and Should Be Awarded Far More Often Than It Is Now, but That Doesn’t Mean All Judges Agree.
Where both parents are fit parents and want to be as involved as possible in rearing that child—both out of a personal interest in enjoying parenthood and out of commitment…
Is Alimony off the Table Here?
My wife had an affair, got caught when she got pregnant by her lover, and then separated from me to move in with him. She had the baby and she…
Should I Pay My Lawyer to Communicate With the Opposing Party’s Attorney?
Question: Should I pay my lawyer to talk to the opposing party’s attorney? He spent 3 hours last week responding to 12 emails from opposing counsel and I need to…
Don’t Play Dirty in Divorce Just Because Your Spouse Does By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
We’ve all heard some version of this story: the dramatic, knock-down, drag-out divorce. Where every move is a power play and every lawyer is part strategist, part saboteur. If you're…
How to Identify and Avoid Some Common Dirty Tricks in Divorce Cases. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Some spouses will absolutely exploit the legal system to gain an unfair advantage in divorce proceedings. It's crucial to recognize the manipulative tactics your spouse might employ against you—even if…
How Do You Get a House Valuation/Appraisal for a Divorce When Your Spouse Has Remains Living in It?
A house does not need to be vacant to be appraised and evaluated. The appraiser(s) can inspect and evaluate the house while you're spouse or ex-spouse is still living there…
A Family Law Attorney 6 Months Out of Law School Works as an Assistant to One of the Top Family Law Attorneys in the Country. Could This New Attorney Handle an Extremely Wealthy Person’s Child Custody Case? Would Her Boss Let Her?
Anything is possible, but it is not likely that a recently licensed lawyer of only 6 months could handle an extremely wealthy person’s child custody case. Extremely wealthy people usually…
How to Deal with a Difficult and Dishonest Opposing Party (and his/her lawyer) in Utah Family Law Cases By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
When you're involved in a family law matter whether it's a divorce, child custody dispute, or a spousal support issue, one of the most frustrating challenges to encounter is an…
After Divorce, My Ex Uses Parental Controls to Spy on My Parenting Time. Can Tech Custody Agreements Exist?
Yes, they can. Not merely agreements, but binding and enforceable court orders can be made by the court to address such an issue too. They are hard to enforce (because…
Should You Get Divorced? Weighing Your Options in a Difficult Decision By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
The decisions to marry and to end a marriage are not decisions to be taken lightly. If divorce is ever an easy choice, something is terribly wrong. Wrong with the…
A Big Problem with Child Abuse and Parental Alienation Accusations in Family Court
I can identify the problem by phrasing it in the form of several hypothetical questions to a judge: Is the approach to the allegations going to be, “Because these kinds…
What Can a Father Do If, After the Divorce, the Mother, Who Has Custody of the Child, Turns the Child Against the Father?
What can a father do if, after the divorce, the mother, who has custody of the child, turns the child against the father? What can he do? There are many things he…
How Do You Combat a Narcissistic Husband Who Isolates Your Child During a Divorce?
Warning: my answer is blunt, and it is directed primarily at women/mothers who make (or contemplate making) false claims, but even if you are not making or contemplating making a…
Should High-Profile Divorces Be Granted Extra Privacy Protections in Court, or Should All Divorce Proceedings Be Equally Transparent Regardless of Wealth and Status?
As soon as we start treating people differently, two things happen: 1) the idea of people being treated equally goes out the window and 2) everyone starts claiming, “My case…
Ragsdale v. Fishler – 2025 UT App 36 – civil stalking – free speech
Ragsdale v. Fishler - 2025 UT App 36 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS KRISTI RAGSDALE, Appellee and Cross-appellant, v. GEORGE FISHLER, Appellant and Cross-appellee. Opinion No. 20230023-CA Filed March 13, 2025 Third…
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