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What are the 3 main issues that lead to divorce these days?

Every time you hear about divorce, what are the 3 main issues that lead to divorce these days? I have been a divorce and family law attorney for 26 years. In that time I have spoken to thousands of people…

Would the divorce rate drop if the parties had to see a psychologist first?

What do you think would be the rate of divorce in marriages if psychologists were to be consulted in court by couples before proceeding to see the lawyer for divorce? Your intentions are good, your proposal won’t work. Short answer:…

How can I better understand the importance of marriage?

July 13, 2022

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As a child with divorced parents, I find it hard to answer questions such as, “What is the importance of marriage?” How can I better understand the importance of marriage? Being a divorced parent does make it harder to make…

True or false: Better to divorce than have a miserable life.

This blog post is in response to this question: I don’t think it’s bad to get a divorce. I think it’s more unhealthy to have miserable lives. — Ginger Wynn. What are your thoughts on this statement? This statement tries…

Why do people get married only to divorce a few years later?

Why do people get married only to divorce a few years later? Doesn’t really sound like love to me. With the exception of those divorces that take place shortly after a marriage due to abuse, mental illness, fraud, and those…

Law from a legal assistant’s point of view, week 49

June 14, 2022

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By Quinton Lister, legal assistant What is the one thing that would help decrease divorce in the United States? I honestly think that commitment to marriage as more than a legal institution would lead to less divorce. As society has…

Is the percentage of married people getting a divorce still about 50%?

June 9, 2022

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Is the percentage of married people getting a divorce still about 50%, or is it now higher? It’s actually a bit less than 50% currently and for the past few years. This is likely not because fewer people are divorcing as it…

How do I stop being afraid of divorcing?

How do I stop being afraid of divorcing? I’m so scared. I’ve been a stay-at-home mother for 18 years. I have health issues. I don’t know if I can provide for myself. Good on you for asking the question before you decide…

What are the most empirically robust factors that predict divorce?

April 22, 2022

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What are the most empirically robust (causal) factors that predict marital dissolution (divorce)? I can give you my guess as to what I believe a rigorous study would reveal based upon my experience as a divorce and family lawyer for…

Why is the Divorce Rate Higher than Ever?

First, the divorce rate is not currently higher than ever. It has been higher in the past. Unfortunately, the reason the divorce rate is declining is likely because fewer people are marrying, not because fewer married people are choosing not…

True or false: Better to divorce than have a miserable life.

March 2, 2022

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This blog post is in response to this question: I don’t think it’s bad to get a divorce. I think it’s more unhealthy to have miserable lives. — Ginger Wynn. What are your thoughts on this statement? This statement tries to express a…

How does a divorce and separation from one parent affect children’s future relationships? Can this cause trust issues or commitment issues in the kids’ future relationship?

Can this cause trust issues or commitment issues in the kids’ future relationship? Yes, of course. How? When the children have witnessed and experienced the destruction of their parents’ relationship—a relationship that is not only part and parcel of their own…

Why is the divorce rate so high in the United States?

Why is the divorce rate so high in the United States? Until now, I would answer this question by stating that some of the main reasons for the high divorce rate in the United States were a failure to understand…

What would happen if there were no alimony or splitting assets in divorce without kids?

May 11, 2021

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That is an interesting question. Before I answer it, know this: anyone who is motivated to marry on a “what’s in it for me?” basis and who stays married motivated by a “what’s in it for me?” basis is likely…

Financial infidelity plagues many households, led by millennials

Guest post: https://www.bankrate.com/finance/credit-cards/financial-infidelity/ Financial infidelity plagues many households, led by millennials By Ted Rossman Ted Rossman’s Twitter profile Mar. 19, 2021 / 3 min read At Bankrate we strive to help you make smarter financial decisions. While we adhere to strict editorial integrity, this…

Do prenuptial agreements make a wedding/marriage healthier?

Do prenuptial agreements make a wedding/marriage healthier? Make? In all cases? No. Can prenuptial agreements make a wedding and marriage healthier? It is conceivable that some people might find planning for divorce before they have married a comfort to them…

Would you divorce your spouse if he/she had a child before marriage without telling you?

Would you divorce your husband if he had a child with his last relationship without telling you? I do not believe that this would, alone, be reason to divorce your husband. He may be a good man who was a…

Would you divorce if your spouse had a child before marriage without telling you?

November 7, 2020

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Would you divorce your husband if he had a child with his last relationship without telling you? I do not believe that this would, alone, be reason to divorce your husband. He may be a good man who was a…

Terrible Financial Thinking and Divorce

August 13, 2020

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Terrible Financial Thinking and Divorce I recently came across a clickbait article filled with terrible thinking about the so-called financial “benefits” of divorce. Click here to read “7 Little-Known Financial Benefits of Divorce: Divorce is often devastating, but there are…

Does the high U.S. divorce rate pose any problems to the economy?

August 12, 2020

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Does the high U.S. divorce rate pose any problems to the economy? Divorce is unquestionably an economic detriment to individual family members and to the public at large. While the odd man, woman, or child may financially benefit from divorce,…