Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation Archives

How can a man show emotion to his woman without her taking it for weakness?

June 26, 2020

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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How can a man show emotion to his woman without her taking it for weakness? He can’t. The value in a man showing his wife or girlfriend genuine emotion and vulnerability lies in the fact that it shows he has…

Can a toxic marriage be saved if only one wants to make it work?

May 22, 2020

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Can a toxic marriage be saved if only one wants to make it work? Possible, but extremely unlikely. So unlikely as to not to be worth so much as trying, if both spouses aren’t willing at least to try to…

Does attending church lower your chance for divorce?

May 7, 2020

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Does attending church lower your chance for divorce? Yes. See: Religious service attendance, divorce, and remarriage among U.S. nurses in mid and late life What God Has Joined Together: Religion and the Risk of Divorce Utah Family Law, LC |…

Why is it so common for parents to become outright enemies after divorce?

Why is it so common for parents to become outright enemies after a divorce? I have represented people in divorce who were pure as the driven snow, innocent as lambs, and treated miserably by their spouses, by law enforcement, by…

Why doesn’t marriage come with a guarantee?

March 26, 2020

Divorce Utah

Alimony and Support, Divorce Fears, Divorce Law, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Why doesn’t marriage come with a guarantee? It does, in a manner of speaking, but they are guarantees that few are willing to honor or enforce. An example of a guarantee (of sorts*) in divorce is alimony. The idea behind…

What is a “temple divorce”?

March 5, 2020

Divorce Utah

Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Isn’t breaking the covenant of eternal marriage when a couple divorced after having being sealed in the temple for eternity? It happened to a few LDS couples. Do you go to a divorce court or a church council? Divorce dissolves…

Have you ever thought someone was making a mistake by getting a divorce?

Many a time. I am a divorce lawyer, but I wouldn’t wish divorce upon anyone except those who need to divorce to escape abuse, cruelty and other truly unbearable circumstances, and betrayal (if trust is irreparably broken). Some people need…

If your parents are divorced, what are the chances you will be?

Much, much higher than if your parents had not divorced. See Psychology Today February 5, 2019: “Research shows that children of divorce are more likely to experience a divorce themselves. The statistics vary, but one study by researchers Paul Amato and Danelle…

Avoiding Hookup Dating Apps and Finding the Best Relationship Sites

December 16, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Fears, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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For those contemplating post-divorce dating, today’s post is for you. It’s a guest post from Consumers Advocate. They put together a case study of online dating industry and prepared this guide to the online dating programs. They tried to stay…

Should marriages have sunset clauses?

November 21, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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No. Thank God for marriage. Thank God for nuclear families. The last thing we need is one more to undermine the sanctity of marriage and family. The reason is obvious: Some people may make a mess of their marriages, but…

Does anyone secretly want a divorce?

Of course. Tens of thousands. Many of such people do not go through with divorce for various reasons. Some include: Fear of retaliation (whether in the form of physical, emotional, and/or financial abuse or hardship) Fear of being left financially…

How does it feel to file for divorce when your spouse doesn’t know it’s coming?

September 5, 2019

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Coping With Divorce, Dirty Tricks, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Assuming that your question implies that the ignorant spouse has no reason to believe that there is anything wrong with the marriage and thus no reason to fear the other spouse would have any cause to file for divorce, learning…

Solve Your Marriage Money Issues or Pay the Price

August 24, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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A good article I commend to any couple that is having a hard time over money and financial issues: https://moneywise.com/a/10-money-mistakes-that-can-wreck-your-relationship Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com | 801-466-9277

Do most marriages end in divorce because of infidelity or money issues?

July 23, 2019

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Adultery, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Infidelity

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I think infidelity, IF you define infidelity broadly, meaning not simply adultery but a general lack of commitment to one another. Lack of devotion, care, and consideration for your spouse leads to indifference, then apathy, and eventually, contempt. Finances can…

How did your parents’ divorce when you were a child affect your adult life?

July 17, 2019

Divorce Utah

Amicable Divorce, Best Interest of the Child, Children in Divorce, Co-parenting, Coping With Divorce, Divorce Fears, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Fathers' Divorce Issues, Men's Divorce Issues, Mothers' Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

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My parents did not divorce, but I base my answer to this question on the experiences of my clients, whether it be how their own children reacted to their divorce or how my clients felt as children when their parents…

Should there be a mandatory “cool-off” period before you file for divorce?

July 11, 2019

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Divorce Law, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Should married couples have a mandatory cooling-off period before they can file for divorce? And if so how long should the cooling off period be? Society desperately needs to reverse the obscene divorce rate. I’m all for appropriate measures to…

Hypothetically speaking, would you divorce over adultery, if you have kids?

July 5, 2019

Divorce Utah

Adultery, Children in Divorce, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Fathers' Divorce Issues, Infidelity, Men's Divorce Issues, Mothers' Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

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Not simply because of an affair, no. It is certainly understandable if one desires to divorce a spouse who has committed adultery. The law understands this as well, which is why adultery is grounds for divorce in every state in…

We Can Work It Out

Could a prolonged lack of exercise exacerbate anxieties and stress, even cause them to accumulate? Could this ultimately result in increased marital conflict? Is your husband angry and/or aggressive? Exercise may help. Many relationships end due in part to unmanaged…

What happens if marriage is abolished, since there are too many divorce rates and cheating affairs?

June 20, 2019

Divorce Utah

Adultery, Children in Divorce, Divorce Causes, Divorce Costs, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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If that happens, then we will then have taken another step—and a big one—on the road to hell. Although the old joke, “the leading cause of divorce is marriage” may be humorous, it’s terrible logic. Abolishing marriage would not “solve”…

Is it unhealthy for a husband and wife NOT to fight?

June 6, 2019

Divorce Utah

Abuse, Child Abuse, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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First, we need to define what “fight” means. If we define “fight” as arguing, no, I don’t think it’s unhealthy for couples to argue. Again, if by “argue” we mean using language that would make a sailor blush, that’s unacceptable,…