Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation Archives

How does it feel to file for divorce when your spouse doesn’t know it’s coming?

September 5, 2019

Coping With Divorce, Dirty Tricks, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Assuming that your question implies that the ignorant spouse has no reason to believe that there is anything wrong with the marriage and thus no reason to fear the other spouse would have any cause to file for divorce, learning…

Solve Your Marriage Money Issues or Pay the Price

August 24, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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A good article I commend to any couple that is having a hard time over money and financial issues: https://moneywise.com/a/10-money-mistakes-that-can-wreck-your-relationship Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com | 801-466-9277

Do most marriages end in divorce because of infidelity or money issues?

July 23, 2019

Divorce Utah

Adultery, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Infidelity

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I think infidelity, IF you define infidelity broadly, meaning not simply adultery but a general lack of commitment to one another. Lack of devotion, care, and consideration for your spouse leads to indifference, then apathy, and eventually, contempt. Finances can…

How did your parents’ divorce when you were a child affect your adult life?

July 17, 2019

Divorce Utah

Amicable Divorce, Best Interest of the Child, Children in Divorce, Co-parenting, Coping With Divorce, Divorce Fears, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Fathers' Divorce Issues, Men's Divorce Issues, Mothers' Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

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My parents did not divorce, but I base my answer to this question on the experiences of my clients, whether it be how their own children reacted to their divorce or how my clients felt as children when their parents…

Should there be a mandatory “cool-off” period before you file for divorce?

July 11, 2019

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Divorce Law, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Should married couples have a mandatory cooling-off period before they can file for divorce? And if so how long should the cooling off period be? Society desperately needs to reverse the obscene divorce rate. I’m all for appropriate measures to…

Hypothetically speaking, would you divorce over adultery, if you have kids?

July 5, 2019

Divorce Utah

Adultery, Children in Divorce, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Fathers' Divorce Issues, Infidelity, Men's Divorce Issues, Mothers' Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

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Not simply because of an affair, no. It is certainly understandable if one desires to divorce a spouse who has committed adultery. The law understands this as well, which is why adultery is grounds for divorce in every state in…

We Can Work It Out

Could a prolonged lack of exercise exacerbate anxieties and stress, even cause them to accumulate? Could this ultimately result in increased marital conflict? Is your husband angry and/or aggressive? Exercise may help. Many relationships end due in part to unmanaged…

What happens if marriage is abolished, since there are too many divorce rates and cheating affairs?

June 20, 2019

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Adultery, Children in Divorce, Divorce Causes, Divorce Costs, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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If that happens, then we will then have taken another step—and a big one—on the road to hell. Although the old joke, “the leading cause of divorce is marriage” may be humorous, it’s terrible logic. Abolishing marriage would not “solve”…

Is it unhealthy for a husband and wife NOT to fight?

June 6, 2019

Divorce Utah

Abuse, Child Abuse, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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First, we need to define what “fight” means. If we define “fight” as arguing, no, I don’t think it’s unhealthy for couples to argue. Again, if by “argue” we mean using language that would make a sailor blush, that’s unacceptable,…

How did having children change the way you think about adults?

May 3, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Adults who marry responsibly and have children responsibly are better adults than those who aren’t. There is generally more to them. If you let them, marriage and parenthood cannot help but expose you to situations that challenge and mold you…

Is it good for my marriage if we live with my mother in law?

April 25, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Not necessarily. While it may not be common in the U.S.A. for adult married children to live with their parents or their parents to live with their adult married children, in many other cultures it is common, acceptable, and even…

Is financial turmoil the cause of divorce?

April 18, 2019

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Divorce Causes, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Men's Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

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Probably not. While many divorces arise over money troubles (too little money, which places an unbearable strain on the marriage), money can’t be the primary cause of divorce. Divorce is too often a terrible investment. The odds of “cashing in” through divorce…

Would you recommend marriage to a younger generation?

March 27, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Would you as a married person recommend marriage to a younger generation? If, at the very least: you want to be everything God intended you to be; you want all the blessings (both those welcomed and not so welcomed) God…

What is the point of marriage if the divorce rate is over 50%?

March 26, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

What is the point of marriage if the divorce rate is over 50%? I’ll answer your question with analogous questions: What is the point of going into business for yourself if more than half of new businesses fail? Why attempt…

What’s the best age to get married and least likely to end up in a divorce?

March 25, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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24. Just kidding. While we can likely all agree that one should not marry too young and that one should not postpone marriage too long, there is no ideal age at which to marry. Precisely when to marry so as…

Should I be cleaning up after my husband?

March 21, 2019

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Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Is it a common thing in a marriage for me to be cleaning up after my husband as if he is just another one of our children? Many men who, if their mothers were homemakers, understandably believe that one of…

Did divorce change the way you think of love, romance, marriage?

March 15, 2019

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Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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Did your divorce change the way you think of love, romance and marriage, and how? Those who divorce without good cause, i.e., when there isn’t abuse, cruelty, neglect, abandonment, substance abuse, etc. fail to understand that there is no real,…

What causes a whole family to abandon an innocent family member?

March 13, 2019

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Children in Divorce, Dirty Tricks, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Parental Alienation

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What would cause a whole family to abandon one family member if they did nothing wrong? Many possibilities, including, but not necessarily limited to: Mental illness. Mass delusion. Holding opinions the others dislike Vindictiveness Jealousy Lack of contact and communication…

In your marriage, how did you decide which jobs each of you would be responsible for?

March 8, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

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In your marriage, how did you decide which jobs each of you would be responsible for? We know that we’re a team and need to work together to succeed as a couple and family. Knowing that helps motivate us to…

How do I avoid a boring married life?

March 7, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

First, boredom is a part of life, married or not. Don’t worry too much about a little boredom now and then, and don’t waste too much effort on “boredom avoidance.” It’ll come for you on occasion regardless of what you…