Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation Archives

How did having children change the way you think about adults?

May 3, 2019

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

Adults who marry responsibly and have children responsibly are better adults than those who aren’t. There is generally more to them. If you let them, marriage and parenthood cannot help but expose you to situations that challenge and mold you…

Is it good for my marriage if we live with my mother in law?

April 25, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

bad, divorce, good, living with in-laws, marriage, moral obligation, reasons

Not necessarily. While it may not be common in the U.S.A. for adult married children to live with their parents or their parents to live with their adult married children, in many other cultures it is common, acceptable, and even…

Is financial turmoil the cause of divorce?

April 18, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Causes, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Men's Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

finances, financial distress, money tension, money troubles

Probably not. While many divorces arise over money troubles (too little money, which places an unbearable strain on the marriage), money can’t be the primary cause of divorce. Divorce is too often a terrible investment. The odds of “cashing in” through divorce…

Would you recommend marriage to a younger generation?

March 27, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

why marriage, why marry, why you should get married, why you should marry

Would you as a married person recommend marriage to a younger generation? If, at the very least: you want to be everything God intended you to be; you want all the blessings (both those welcomed and not so welcomed) God…

What is the point of marriage if the divorce rate is over 50%?

March 26, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

What is the point of marriage if the divorce rate is over 50%? I’ll answer your question with analogous questions: What is the point of going into business for yourself if more than half of new businesses fail? Why attempt…

What’s the best age to get married and least likely to end up in a divorce?

March 25, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

age, divorce, how old, how young, ideal age, marriage, when to marry

24. Just kidding. While we can likely all agree that one should not marry too young and that one should not postpone marriage too long, there is no ideal age at which to marry. Precisely when to marry so as…

Should I be cleaning up after my husband?

March 21, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

cleaning, cooking, family, husband, laundry, pick up after, roles, spouse, wife

Is it a common thing in a marriage for me to be cleaning up after my husband as if he is just another one of our children? Many men who, if their mothers were homemakers, understandably believe that one of…

Did divorce change the way you think of love, romance, marriage?

March 15, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

divorce, love, marriage, perspective, romance, viewpoint

Did your divorce change the way you think of love, romance and marriage, and how? Those who divorce without good cause, i.e., when there isn’t abuse, cruelty, neglect, abandonment, substance abuse, etc. fail to understand that there is no real,…

What causes a whole family to abandon an innocent family member?

March 13, 2019

Divorce Utah

Children in Divorce, Dirty Tricks, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Parental Alienation

alienation, betrayal, family dynamics, parental alienation

What would cause a whole family to abandon one family member if they did nothing wrong? Many possibilities, including, but not necessarily limited to: Mental illness. Mass delusion. Holding opinions the others dislike Vindictiveness Jealousy Lack of contact and communication…

In your marriage, how did you decide which jobs each of you would be responsible for?

March 8, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

dividing responsibilities, division of responsibilities, getting along, husband and wife, marriage, marriage roles, responsibilities, spouses

In your marriage, how did you decide which jobs each of you would be responsible for? We know that we’re a team and need to work together to succeed as a couple and family. Knowing that helps motivate us to…

How do I avoid a boring married life?

March 7, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

First, boredom is a part of life, married or not. Don’t worry too much about a little boredom now and then, and don’t waste too much effort on “boredom avoidance.” It’ll come for you on occasion regardless of what you…

What’s the best age to get married and least likely to end up in a divorce?

February 20, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

age to avoid divorce, best age to marry, how old to marry

Should I always stand up to my spouse in every dispute?

February 18, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

argument, dispute, fight, spouse, stand up

No. Here is why: No one should defend a position one knows to be wrong; Even if, arguendo, your spouse were always in the right in every dispute: One may occasionally find it better not defend one’s position when the…

Is it common in a marriage for me to be cleaning up after my husband?

February 14, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

cleaning up after husband, divorce prevention, preventing divorce

Many men who, if their mothers were homemakers, understandably believe that one of a wife’s duties is housekeeping and cleaning up after her family members. Fewer women are homemakers now, but men my age often had mothers who did the…

Which is best, divorce or stay married for the sake of the kids?

February 5, 2019

Divorce Utah

Amicable Divorce, Best Interest of the Child, Children in Divorce, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

divorce or stay married?, stay together for the kids, stay together for the sake of the children

Question: Do you think married people should be able to get a divorce if one or both sides no longer love the other even if they have a kid/kids, or if they have a kid/kids they should only be able…

How did divorce change your views about marriage?

January 10, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

I am a divorce lawyer, but I am not divorced and never have been. Good willing, I never will have cause to be divorced. I have always believed in marriage. There is no better way for men and women and…

Would you want a divorce from someone you knew disliked your mother?

January 9, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

friction, in-law troubles, in-laws, mother-in-law

My disdain for my mother-in-law grows every time I see her. Would you want a divorce from someone you knew disliked your mother? Not necessarily. Maybe your wife doesn’t like her mother either, but assuming that she does like her…

As a divorce lawyer, what is the most ridiculous reason your client filed divorce for?

January 8, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

bad reasons for divorce, reasons for divorce

As a divorce lawyer, what is the most ridiculous reason your client filed divorce for? ‘Nothing super weird in my experience. About as ridiculous a “reason” for divorce I’ve been told is simply, “I’m not happy” when the person’s spouse…

A Divorce Lawyer Just Gave Incredibly Powerful Marriage Advice and It’s Only 4 Words Long

January 4, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Premarital Counseling

divorce prevention, marriage preservation

A Divorce Lawyer Just Gave Incredibly Powerful Marriage Advice and It’s Only 4 Words Long (click the link to access the full article) Inc. Magazine by Jessica Stillman

Is it ever a good idea to postpone a divorce for the ‘children’s sake’?

January 2, 2019

Divorce Utah

Amicable Divorce, Best Interest of the Child, Children in Divorce, Divorce Fears, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Fathers' Divorce Issues, Men's Divorce Issues, Mothers' Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

divorcing after the kids are adults, staying together for the kids' sake

Ever? Certainly. Always? No. (and remember: though I’m a divorce lawyer, that does not mean I am a raving fan of divorce. I’m not. Rarely does even the “best divorce” measure up to a “sufficient marriage”) While it is clearly…