Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation Archives

Why doesn’t marriage come with a guarantee?

March 26, 2020

Alimony and Support, Divorce Fears, Divorce Law, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

Why doesn’t marriage come with a guarantee? It does, in a manner of speaking, but they are guarantees that few are willing to honor or enforce. An example of a guarantee (of sorts*) in divorce is alimony. The idea behind…

What is a “temple divorce”?

March 5, 2020

Divorce Utah

Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

cancellation of sealing, sealing cancellation, temple divorce, temple marriage

Isn’t breaking the covenant of eternal marriage when a couple divorced after having being sealed in the temple for eternity? It happened to a few LDS couples. Do you go to a divorce court or a church council? Divorce dissolves…

Have you ever thought someone was making a mistake by getting a divorce?

Many a time. I am a divorce lawyer, but I wouldn’t wish divorce upon anyone except those who need to divorce to escape abuse, cruelty and other truly unbearable circumstances, and betrayal (if trust is irreparably broken). Some people need…

If your parents are divorced, what are the chances you will be?

Much, much higher than if your parents had not divorced. See Psychology Today February 5, 2019: “Research shows that children of divorce are more likely to experience a divorce themselves. The statistics vary, but one study by researchers Paul Amato and Danelle…

Avoiding Hookup Dating Apps and Finding the Best Relationship Sites

December 16, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Fears, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

dating, dating apps, hooking up, hookups, post-divorce dating

For those contemplating post-divorce dating, today’s post is for you. It’s a guest post from Consumers Advocate. They put together a case study of online dating industry and prepared this guide to the online dating programs. They tried to stay…

Should marriages have sunset clauses?

November 21, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

divorce, family, irresponsible, marriage, nuclear family, sacrifice, sunset clause

No. Thank God for marriage. Thank God for nuclear families. The last thing we need is one more to undermine the sanctity of marriage and family. The reason is obvious: Some people may make a mess of their marriages, but…

Does anyone secretly want a divorce?

Of course. Tens of thousands. Many of such people do not go through with divorce for various reasons. Some include: Fear of retaliation (whether in the form of physical, emotional, and/or financial abuse or hardship) Fear of being left financially…

How does it feel to file for divorce when your spouse doesn’t know it’s coming?

September 5, 2019

Divorce Utah

Coping With Divorce, Dirty Tricks, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

be prepared, cope, coping, divorce, preparedness, surprise, unexpected, unprepared

Assuming that your question implies that the ignorant spouse has no reason to believe that there is anything wrong with the marriage and thus no reason to fear the other spouse would have any cause to file for divorce, learning…

Solve Your Marriage Money Issues or Pay the Price

August 24, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

disputes, finances, financial, marriage, money, problems, troubles, trust

A good article I commend to any couple that is having a hard time over money and financial issues: https://moneywise.com/a/10-money-mistakes-that-can-wreck-your-relationship Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com | 801-466-9277

Do most marriages end in divorce because of infidelity or money issues?

July 23, 2019

Divorce Utah

Adultery, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Infidelity

adultery, commitment, finances, financial strain, infidelity, money, poor, too much money

I think infidelity, IF you define infidelity broadly, meaning not simply adultery but a general lack of commitment to one another. Lack of devotion, care, and consideration for your spouse leads to indifference, then apathy, and eventually, contempt. Finances can…

How did your parents’ divorce when you were a child affect your adult life?

July 17, 2019

Divorce Utah

Amicable Divorce, Best Interest of the Child, Children in Divorce, Co-parenting, Coping With Divorce, Divorce Fears, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Fathers' Divorce Issues, Men's Divorce Issues, Mothers' Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

children of divorce, consequences of divorce for children, effect of divorce on children

My parents did not divorce, but I base my answer to this question on the experiences of my clients, whether it be how their own children reacted to their divorce or how my clients felt as children when their parents…

Should there be a mandatory “cool-off” period before you file for divorce?

July 11, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Law, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

bad, cool-off, cooling off, divorce, idea, intuitive, mandatory, need, solution, statutory

Should married couples have a mandatory cooling-off period before they can file for divorce? And if so how long should the cooling off period be? Society desperately needs to reverse the obscene divorce rate. I’m all for appropriate measures to…

Hypothetically speaking, would you divorce over adultery, if you have kids?

July 5, 2019

Divorce Utah

Adultery, Children in Divorce, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Fathers' Divorce Issues, Infidelity, Men's Divorce Issues, Mothers' Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

cause, children, divorce, fault, forgive, forgiveness, repentant, unrepentant

Not simply because of an affair, no. It is certainly understandable if one desires to divorce a spouse who has committed adultery. The law understands this as well, which is why adultery is grounds for divorce in every state in…

We Can Work It Out

Could a prolonged lack of exercise exacerbate anxieties and stress, even cause them to accumulate? Could this ultimately result in increased marital conflict? Is your husband angry and/or aggressive? Exercise may help. Many relationships end due in part to unmanaged…

What happens if marriage is abolished, since there are too many divorce rates and cheating affairs?

June 20, 2019

Divorce Utah

Adultery, Children in Divorce, Divorce Causes, Divorce Costs, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

abolish marriage, affairs, cheating, children, divorce, marriage, prevent divorce, society

If that happens, then we will then have taken another step—and a big one—on the road to hell. Although the old joke, “the leading cause of divorce is marriage” may be humorous, it’s terrible logic. Abolishing marriage would not “solve”…

Is it unhealthy for a husband and wife NOT to fight?

June 6, 2019

Divorce Utah

Abuse, Child Abuse, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

healthy, spouses fight, spouses fighting, unhealthy

First, we need to define what “fight” means. If we define “fight” as arguing, no, I don’t think it’s unhealthy for couples to argue. Again, if by “argue” we mean using language that would make a sailor blush, that’s unacceptable,…

How did having children change the way you think about adults?

May 3, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

better, children change parents

Adults who marry responsibly and have children responsibly are better adults than those who aren’t. There is generally more to them. If you let them, marriage and parenthood cannot help but expose you to situations that challenge and mold you…

Is it good for my marriage if we live with my mother in law?

April 25, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

bad, divorce, good, living with in-laws, marriage, moral obligation, reasons

Not necessarily. While it may not be common in the U.S.A. for adult married children to live with their parents or their parents to live with their adult married children, in many other cultures it is common, acceptable, and even…

Is financial turmoil the cause of divorce?

April 18, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Causes, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Men's Divorce Issues, Women's Divorce Issues

finances, financial distress, money tension, money troubles

Probably not. While many divorces arise over money troubles (too little money, which places an unbearable strain on the marriage), money can’t be the primary cause of divorce. Divorce is too often a terrible investment. The odds of “cashing in” through divorce…

Would you recommend marriage to a younger generation?

March 27, 2019

Divorce Utah

Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation

why marriage, why marry, why you should get married, why you should marry

Would you as a married person recommend marriage to a younger generation? If, at the very least: you want to be everything God intended you to be; you want all the blessings (both those welcomed and not so welcomed) God…