How does custody of children work if the parents live in different states?
How does custody of children work if the parents live in different states? I’ll answer this question in the context of Utah’s family law (I practice divorce and family law…
What is the best way to get a 50/50 custody and visitation plan in family court?
There are many, many factors the judge will consider. I’ll list them. First and foremost is: distance between the parents. If the parents don’t live close enough to each other…
Can a court force a parent to exercise visitation, even if that parent doesn’t want to?
If a divorced parent doesn’t want visitation rights (i.e. doesn’t want to see his/her child), is that legal, or would the court order the unwilling parent to have visits? This…
Why does my ex-husband believe I’m spending child support on myself?
Why does my ex-husband believe the child support he pays is used to pay for our vacation? That money doesn’t even pay 1/4 of our rent. Two reasons: 1) because…
Child Support: can it be awarded to a joint custodial father who lost his job, if the mother is employed?
Child Support: does a father with joint custody who lost his job have the right to claim child support, if the mother is employed? My answer applies for the State…
Are divorce courts biased towards either gender?
Are divorce courts biased towards either gender? In my educated and experienced opinion, yes, in most (not all) cases. It’s not usually motivated by animus toward men or women (although…
Child custody: What is it? Do women get custody of a baby?
What is child custody? In America, do women get custody of a baby? “Child custody” is defined in Black's Law Dictionary (10th ed. 2014) as follows: 2. Family law. The…
Lay v. Lay – 2018 UT App 137 – § 30-3-35.1 parent-time not mandatory
2018 UT App 137 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BRANDON CHRISTOPHER LAY, Appellant, v. CORINNA NICOLE LAY, Appellee. Opinion No. 20170230-CA Filed July 12, 2018 Third District Court, West Jordan…
Perspective of a Law Student: How my views on court decisions have changed
Perspective of a Law Student: How my views on court decisions have changed after 2 years of law school by Alyssa Miller Before law school I perceived court cases and the…
Noncustodial Parents: Understanding Parent-Time
Noncustodial Parents: Understanding Parent-Time When going through a divorce, one of the most common issues is child custody. A common misperception about child custody is that it is simply who…
How Do I Get My Ex Prosecuted for Custodial Inteference?
QUESTION: What can I file in court for custodial interference? Is it just a matter of filing a motion for order to show cause? Or is there more to it?…
What is the average cost of divorce, when child custody is contested?
How much does it cost to divorce on average, with two kids and contested custody? On average? I’d say around $20,000, if the case is contested. But, as you will see…
How Utah courts have parents take care of their children after divorce
Child Custody: How do courts provide for parents to take care of their children after divorce? When parents divorce, one of the biggest potential conflicts is the question of child…
What was it like to lose your siblings during a divorce?
What was it like to lose your siblings during a divorce? I am a divorce lawyer, but neither I nor my parents ever divorced. I do not know personally what…
If somebody’s wife gets pregnant by another man will it be easy for the husband to gain custody of their children?
If somebody’s wife gets pregnant by another man will it be easy for the husband to gain custody of their children? In my opinion, 9.5 times out of 10 the…
What are the legal repercussions of posting an email chain between myself and my daughter’s custodial parent exposing her downright shady behavior?
What are the legal repercussions of posting an email chain between myself and my daughter's custodial parent exposing her downright shady behavior? Many who “answered” your question didn’t read your…
Why do we allow attorneys to profit from the harm of children?
Look, I love you, brother, but this isn’t really a question, it’s a lame lament, and I will show you why. First, there are plenty of horrible lawyers out there…
Why are women generally awarded child custody more often than men?
QUESTION: From a lawyer’s perspective, why do women get child custody almost 90% of the time? Is there really a bias? What factors come into play when deciding about it?…
Kentucky Now Leads the Nation in Shared Parenting After Divorce
National Parents Organization Celebrates Landmark Kentucky Shared Parenting Law NATIONAL PARENTS ORGANIZATION | PRESS RELEASE April 26, 2018 NATIONAL PARENTS ORGANIZATION CELEBRATES LANDMARK KENTUCKY SHARED PARENTING LAW With Governor Bevin’s…
Who has rights to custody of children after divorce, the mother or father?
Who has more rights to claim the custody of their child after divorce, a mother or father? The answer the legal profession wants you to believe and that the law…
Should I feel “guilty” because my ex-wife pays child support?
Should I feel "guilty" and "ashamed" because a “friend of the court” determined my soon to be ex-wife should pay me child support as part of the divorce settlement? It…
How could a mother or a father claim a child’s custody?
How could a mother or a father claim a child's custody? Custody is not something a parent usually “claims”. Biological parents of child already legally have custody of their children.…
Do women ever have to pay child support?
Do any women have to pay child support? Not only she can women pay child support, if the couple are divorced or the court adjudicates child custody in a parentage…
Why you should settle the issue of child custody out of court, if you reasonably can
Why you should settle the issue of child custody out of court, if you reasonably can: Shuman v. Shuman, 406 P.3d 258, ¶ 10, 2017 UT App 192: We are,…
Attorneys: “glorified pencil-pushers”?
This is from part of an e-mail that I received from Richard Jacobs. He helps attorneys with their marketing. I like much of Richard's approach because, like me, he doesn't…
If I petition to modify the child support award, how far back does the modification go?
If I petition to modify the child support award, how far back does the modification go? Utah does allow for child support modification. The answer is found in Utah Code §…
Do experts help in divorce cases? Specifically custody evaluators?
Do experts help in divorce cases? Specifically custody evaluators? That depends on how you define “help,” and if you define “help” as “dramatically improve your chances of success,” then generally…
What’s an effective course of action to address parental alienation?
What would be an effective course of action to address parental alienation? Is there an area of law that intervenes in these cases? First, I’ll tell one of the most ineffective courses…
The court awarded my ex custody of our kids, but they live with me. Can I legally claim them on my taxes?
The court awarded my ex custody of our kids, but they live with me. Can I legally claim them on my taxes? Here’s the answer as it applies under Utah…
If my ex makes the kids late for school, am I responsible?
What happens if a non-custodial parent habitually brings a son back days late from a visitation, resulting in unexcused absences from school (kindergarten)? Am I responsible for the truancy? The…
Child Custody and Where the Children Attend School
How is the school that a child will be attending decided if the parents are separated and live in two different school zones? Real-world, gritty answer that you may not…
In which developed country is there equal rights for moms and dads in child custody cases?
In which developed country is there equal rights for moms and dads in child custody cases? What an astute question (whether you realize it fully). I live in the United…
How unemployment or under-employment affects child support
QUESTION: I was looking into child support laws, I am confused about how involuntary vs. voluntary unemployment or under-employment affects the child support obligation. If a non-custodial parent wants to…
Yes, there is a bias in favor of mothers in child custody disputes, but not for much longer.
Wednesday, March 7, 2018 I recently saw this post on a child custody Facebook group: If [fathers] want to piss and moan, and whine online about injustice and not being…
Can I represent myself in a child custody dispute and win?
Can I represent myself in child custody matters of my own children and win? What you really mean is, “Can I represent myself in child custody matters of my own…
What happens if a child does not sleep in another room?
What happens if a child does not sleep in another room? I am a divorce lawyer who encounters this (rather silly) “issue” in child custody cases frequently. And here is…
Hesitant to talk to a lawyer? That’s normal. And wise.
Some people are hesitant, even scared, to talk to a divorce lawyer or a family lawyer. But being nervous or afraid of making a mistake is normal. And wise. Hiring…
What if I don’t want custody of my child post-divorce?
What if I don't want custody of my child post-divorce? If the other parent is 1) fit to exercise custody of the child(ren) and 2) willing to take custody of…
Why does the mom usually win custody of her kids in a divorce?
Why does the mom usually win custody of her kids in a divorce? Why are mother's awarded child custody so often? There is one main reason, and many ancillary reasons,…
Look, I know you want to believe mediation is the magic pill for divorce but you’re missing a crucial point
Way too many mediators (whether of the collaborative stripe or other persuasion) insinuate that 1) divorce without mediation is doomed to anger and misery; and 2) merely engaging in mediation…
K.P.S. v. E.J.P. – 2018 UT App 5 – Utah Court of Appeals – January 5, 2018
2018 UT App 5 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS K.P.S., Appellee, v. E.J.P., Appellant. Opinion No. 20160164-CA Filed January 5, 2018 Third District Court, Salt Lake Department The Honorable Paul…
What if two divorced parents have joint legal custody, but one parent has physical custody of the children more than 50% of the time?
Question: What if two divorced parents have joint legal custody, but one parent has physical custody of the children more than 50% of the time? What effect can this have…
My ex is threatening to relocate out of state with our kids!
QUESTION: My ex-wife tonight, in a fit of anger, told me that she is going to move to another state with our kids (her current boyfriend lives there). I’m not…
5 Things Divorce Will Never Save You From
5 Things Divorce Will Never Save You From Make sure you know what you're doing before you make a decision you can't undo. Are you feeling frustrated, unsatisfied, and even…
Can I sue for the child support I paid after our child started living with me?
QUESTION: Can I sue my child's mother for the child support that was deducted from my pay after our child started living with me, in my home? ANSWER: Utah Code…
How can I call my 10-year-old as a witness to say where she would like to live?
QUESTION: How can I call my 10-year-old as a witness in family court to say where she would like to live, and why? ANSWER: First, you may want to re-think your…
What if my spouse won’t complete the divorce orientation and education courses?
What if my spouse will not complete the divorce orientation and education courses for parents? Can the judge still grant the divorce? Yes. You can file a motion notifying the…
Can a Child Be Held in Contempt of Court for Non-compliance with Child Custody and Parent-time Orders?
A minor child of divorced parents need not be a party to the divorce action to be subject to the court’s contempt power. See Crank v. Utah Judicial Council, 20…
Does child support still continue while child is in college?
QUESTION: I was wondering if a child goes to college but still lives with a parent, does child support still continue while child is in college? ANSWER: The Utah Code…
What are the options when a father is accused of domestic violence when it seems to stem purely from a desire by the mother to have him out of the home?
What options are there when a father is accused of domestic violence, but the charge seems to stem purely from a desire by the mother to have him out of…
