One of the Nice Guy’s major issues is perfectionism. He believes that he needs to always be right, never make a mistake, and show no flaws or weaknesses. He believes that unless he is perfect and good all of the time, then he will be rejected by everyone around him and life, in general, will go to hell. It’s a very black-and-white mindset, and it is horribly self-destructive.
In this discussion, we will talk about the concept of Optimalism from The Pursuit of Perfect by Tal Ben-Shahar. We’ll learn a new way of thinking to replace the Perfectionist: the Optimalist. We can’t always be perfect, and it’s a mistake to even try, but we can live our best possible lives and be our best possible selves, while still recognizing that mistakes and detours are a normal (and beneficial!) part of life.
By rejecting the all-or-nothing thinking of the Perfectionist and embracing the more nuanced, complex mindset of the Optimalist, we can learn to accept our failures along with our successes – and lead much happier lives!