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How can I calm my nerves?

How can I calm my nerves? I hired an attorney to help with my child custody case against my BPD ex. I’m so scared of what he will do when he finds out.

Know that hiring a good lawyer (a good lawyer, not just any lawyer) is one of the smartest things you could do for you, your nerves, and your children. Talk to people who didn’t hire an attorney in your circumstances, and they’ll tell you that you’ve done one of the best things that can be done. Great first step.

You’ll never fully rid yourself of the ignorance of the legal system and legal processes. So you will never fully rid yourself of the anxiety that flows from it. But (in no particular order):

  • getting a good attorney and listening to what your attorney tells you and doing as your attorney directs;
  • educating yourself on the process (it’s nothing like you think it is, so the more you know about how it works, the better you’ll be able to navigate it and leverage it to your and your children’s benefit);
  • having faith in God;
  • leaning on friends and family for support as necessary (without wearing out your welcome of course); and
  • staying vigilant

is the best medicine I can prescribe.

And one more thing: nothing helps you get your mind off your own plight and worries better than helping others in need and in pain.

Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com | 801-466-9277

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I hired an attorney. I’m so scared how my ex will react.

How can I calm my nerves? I hired an attorney to help with my child custody case against my BPD ex. I’m so scared of what he will do when he finds out.

  1. Know that hiring a good lawyer (a good lawyer, not just any lawyer) is one of the smartest things you could do for you, your nerves, and your children. Talk to people who didn’t hire an attorney in your circumstances, and they’ll tell you that you’ve done one of the best things that can be done. Great first step.
  2. You’ll never fully rid yourself of the ignorance of the legal system and legal processes. So you will never fully rid yourself of the anxiety that flows from it. But (in no particular order):
    1. getting a good attorney and listening to what your attorney tells you and doing as your attorney directs;
    2. educating yourself on the process (it’s nothing like you think it is, so the more you know about how it works, the better you’ll be able to navigate it and leverage it to your and your children’s benefit);
    3. having faith in God;
    4. leaning on friends and family for support as necessary (without wearing out your welcome of course); and
    5. staying vigilant

is the best medicine I can prescribe.

And one more thing: nothing helps you get your mind off your own plight and worries better than helping others in need and in pain.

Utah Family Law, LC | divorceutah.com | 801-466-9277

https://www.quora.com/How-can-I-calm-my-nerves-I-hired-an-attorney-to-help-with-my-child-custody-case-against-my-BPD-ex-I-m-so-scared-of-what-he-will-do-when-he-finds-out/answer/Eric-Johnson-311

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We Can Work It Out

Could a prolonged lack of exercise exacerbate anxieties and stress, even cause them to accumulate? Could this ultimately result in increased marital conflict? Is your husband angry and/or aggressive? Exercise may help.

Many relationships end due in part to unmanaged anxieties and stress, which these people could perhaps manage (even easily manage) through exercise, particularly for men. I know that throughout my personal relationships I would often become easily irritated by little things that my spouse did (or didn’t do). After several such incidents my wife suggested I go run, ride my bike, skip rope, or hit the gym. I didn’t want to. But the immediate results were always beneficial; I would come home relaxed and more contented. The anger and aggression had been literally worked out of me.

Is your husband (or wife) irritable and/or aggressive? Suggest that a workout and then see how your spouse feels and acts. It’s a simple step, but worth taking. Try it.

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