Tag: employment

Does an ongoing divorce make one a lame duck at work?

I believe what you mean to ask is, “Does an ongoing Divorce make you unable to focus and be productive at work?” The answer to that question is: for most people, yes.

When Divorce Increases Productivity at Work

Some people actually find that a divorce makes them more productive at work because they find that their jobs give them something to take their minds off the divorce and a purpose into which to channel all of the energy and effort that would otherwise be wasted on worry, anxiety, and rage. But I find these people to be in the minority of divorce litigants.

When Divorce Decreases Productivity and Work Quality

Your question is better than you might have imagined. You ask a very important question because many people going through divorce do not realize until it’s too late what a deleterious effect the divorce is having on the quality of their work and/or their productivity on the job. I’ve known more than one person to lose his or her job as one of the unforeseen consequences of divorce.

If you are going through a divorce, make sure that you find some way to deal with the strain outside of work, so that you don’t end up taking it to work only to find that it places your livelihood in jeopardy.

What to do?:

I don’t like exercise, but when I exercise I can see that I can handle physical and emotional stress better. If divorce is driving you to distraction, get some exercise. It strengthens your ability to deal with stress, and it helps you get a better nights sleep.

Go to church. One of the primary purposes of church is to provide comfort to the suffering. If your divorce is causing you suffering, except the comfort the church offers. Hear inspiring messages of hope and forgiveness. Bask in the brotherhood of your fellow parishioners. Take your minister up on his or her offers to confer and counsel with you privately, if and when needed. Avail yourself of opportunities to provide service to others in need. Paradoxically, we feel so much better when we take the focus off our own pain in our efforts to relieve the pain of others.

Seek professional therapy or counseling help. Many of you reading this may think “I’m just going through a divorce, I’m not mentally ill,” but the fact is that for most people divorce takes a greater toll on them psychologically and emotionally then they imagine. Divorce literally can drive you crazy, if not permanently, then on a temporary basis at the very least. For those of you who are skeptical, you must look at it this way: if therapy or counseling is not for you, then put that question to the test by attending two or three therapy or counseling sessions. If you find that it does you no good, you can conclude that it’s not for you. But if you find that it is helping, you’ll be glad you had the humility to get this kind of help that you need.

Utah Family Law, LC | | 801-466-9277

Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Is It Harder to Get a Job After 40? Should Divorce Courts Care?

I just came across this from “Inc. this Morning” from Inc. magazine. It’s something you and the court may need to keep in mind when it comes to child support and/or alimony:

“A friend of mine turned 40 recently, and I told him, “Hey, look on the bright side: At least now you’re in a protected employment class.”

It’s a joke on a few levels: First, I’m older than he is, and second, he’s worth millions so he’s not all that worried about finding a job. Here’s the third level: A federal appeals court just ruled that the anti-age discrimination law applies only to current employees, not job applicants.

“Is this good news? Probably not so much for older job applicants, at least in the three midwestern states covered by the 7th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals (Illinois, Indiana, and Wisconsin).

“Perhaps for some employers, this is welcome news. But bear this in mind: The pool of workers ages 55 and older is growing quickly and will make up nearly a quarter of the workforce by 2022, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics.

So if you are getting divorced, are over age 40, and don’t have a job or find it difficult to find a job, should the court consider your age in imputing you an income for alimony and/or child support purposes? If so, how? Hartvigsen v. Hartvigsen – 2018 UT App 238 – alimony, marital property

Utah Family Law, LC | | 801-466-9277

Tags: , , , , , , , , , ,
Click to listen highlighted text!