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If your life partner has a low IQ, is divorce an option?

November 29, 2022

Abandonment and Desertion, Adultery, Divorce, Extramarital affairs/Adultery, No fault divorce

abandonment, adultery, alcohol abuse, criminal convictions, cruelty, desertion, drug abuse, impotency, insanity, loathsome disease, mental illness, neglect, no-fault divorce

Yes, but not for the reason you may think. In the age of no-fault divorce, you don’t really need to persuade the court to grant you a divorce. Divorce is essentially available on demand. Your spouse’s IQ need not have…

Why do people not complain about people who shouldn’t marry?

October 3, 2022

Divorce Utah

Divorce, Divorce Fears, Divorce Law, Divorce Prevention/Marriage Preservation, Family Law, Uncategorized

divorce, divorce prevention, marriage, mental illness, people who shouldn't marry, preventative laws, prevention, romance, romantic, stupidity

Why do people complain about the high divorce rate, but don’t complain about people who shouldn’t marry? There will never be an effective, morally acceptable way to prevent the following kinds of people from marrying (and thus reducing the divorce…

Has anyone ever been able to prove narcissistic abuse in divorce court?

Yes, it happens quite frequently.* What people don’t understand is that finding a spouse is a jerk usually doesn’t amount to much in the divorce action. Most people believe—falsely—that if they can show the court that their spouses are narcissists…

What are the 3 main issues that lead to divorce these days?

Every time you hear about divorce, what are the 3 main issues that lead to divorce these days? I have been a divorce and family law attorney for 26 years. In that time I have spoken to thousands of people…

Can I gain full custody if I’m bipolar?

I don’t want anything to do with my child’s father. Can I gain full custody if I’m bipolar? First, thank you for being so candid and blunt. This is a question that everyone on both sides of this issue have…

Why would a father give a child’s abusive mother full custody?

Why would a father whose attorney had outed his children’s mother as a schizophrenogenic narc monster give her full custody? “Give?” If the father had it within his power to prevent custody of the children from being awarded to a…

How can I reveal my soon-to-be ex as having NPD in our custody case?

How can I reveal my soon-to-be ex as having NPD in our child custody case? You’re asking the wrong question. You shouldn’t be asking how you can prove your spouse has NPD (or some other mental or emotional disorder), but…

What kind of “damage” can untreated BPD in a parent cause children?

December 30, 2021

Divorce Utah

Child Custody, Children in Divorce, Co-parenting, Custody, Mental Illness, Parentage, Parental Fitness

bipolar disorder, BPD, children, Children in Divorce, damage, healing, mental illness, trauma

What kind of “damage” can an untreated single parent with BPD/shared custody/ cause to the kids in the long term? Plenty. Children of BPD parents often struggle with trusting others and forming intimate relationships. they often have a warped perception…

What is it like to battle for custody with a narcissist?

Miserable. Narcissists know how to game the system, to exploit its weaknesses, to exploit all that is good in human nature and institutions for destructive ends. It’s virtually impossible to prove that a narcissist is engaging in such misconduct because one of the things that makes a narcissist a narcissist, and so maddeningly effective as a narcissist is the ability to do so much…

How do I expose a narcissist in family court?

August 25, 2021

Divorce Utah

Abuse, Divorce, Divorce Court, Divorce Law, Family Law, Mental Illness

divorce, divorce law, domestic relations, family law, mental health, mental illness, narcissist

Pretty much impossible. Why? Two big reasons, generally: Narcissists are masters of deception. Being a narcissist generally not terribly relevant, if relevant at all, to most issues in a divorce or other kind of domestic relations case. Bad behavior (abuse,…

How do courts view mothers who abandon their family during a divorce?

How does the court view mothers that abandon their family during a divorce? Generally, with disbelief, at first. Why? A few reasons. One, to its credit, our culture still holds the concept and institution of motherhood in high esteem, so…

What are the dirty tricks your spouse can do to attack you during a divorce?

What are the dirty tricks your spouse and his/her lawyer can do to attack you during a divorce? Understand that while the tone of this answer to your question is a little—a little—tongue in cheek, it’s still true. Dirty tricks…

How does a narcissist continue to fool a family court judge?

February 7, 2020

Divorce Utah

Dirty Tricks, Divorce Fears, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Fathers' Divorce Issues, Men's Divorce Issues, Mental Illness, Mothers' Divorce Issues, Personality Disorders, Women's Divorce Issues

BPD, mental illness, narcissist, NPD

How does a narcissist continue to fool a family court judge? How does a narcissist continue to fool a family court judge? Because there’s almost never a way to prove when anyone engaging in misconduct that is not objectively verifiable.…

Divorcing parents in psychiatric care deny thoughts of self-harm?

Do parents in psychiatric care deny thoughts of self-harm for fear admitting it may impact custody? Is it common for a parent in psychiatric care to make false denials of thoughts of self-harm for fear that doing so may adversely impact…

Best way to handle a child custody dispute with a mentally ill ex?

January 4, 2020

Divorce Utah

Dirty Tricks, Divorce Fears, Divorce Mistakes, Divorce Preparedness, Mental Illness

care, child custody, court, emotional, harm, interest, mental illness, personality disorders, physical, relevant

After procuring an attorney for the matter, what is the best way to prepare for an upcoming child custody dispute with a PBPD ex? I am amazed at the number of people who believe that courts are interested in whether…

Are family courts biased against parents with diagnosed mental illness when deciding custody?

August 14, 2018

Divorce Utah

Child Custody, Children in Divorce, Custody, Mental Illness, Parental Fitness, Parental Rights

apathy, bias, fear, mental health, mental illness, understanding

Are family courts biased against parents with diagnosed mental illness when deciding custody? Yes, they can be, under certain circumstances. A common tactic in child custody disputes is to accuse the other parent of being mentally ill and a danger…

My mentally spouse just got a bogus restraining order. What do I do?

April 17, 2018

Divorce Utah

Dirty Tricks, Divorce Fears, Men's Divorce Issues, Protective Orders, Restraining Orders, Women's Divorce Issues

divorce, mental illness

What can I do when my mentally ill lawyer wife wants a divorce, and just got a bogus restraining order on me? Assuming that you are resigned to divorce and not to trying to salvage the marriage, here are some…

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