Tag: moral obligation

How Can the Legal System Better Support Parents Who Lose Custody Battles?

It does not matter whether or how the legal system could support or better support parents who lose child custody cases because it is not the purpose of the legal system to provide support to parents (custodial or noncustodial). The legal system hears and decides legal disputes. The legal system does not implement its decisions (its orders). It is up to those who obtain the orders to take the steps necessary to enforce them (and to enforce them lawfully).

While parents who lose child custody battles often suffer and need or could benefit from help, it is not the role of the legal system to provide help. In other words, you’re asking the wrong question. The right questions are, “What kind of help do parents who lose child custody disputes need?,” and “How can those who want to help these parents help them (and help them best)?”

Another good question is, “Are parents who lose a child custody dispute entitled to help?” We have all been—and will be in the future—unable to meet all our needs independently and have needed help from others. We are all morally obligated to help our fellow human beings. There is a difference, however, between moral obligations to help others and others’ claims to entitlement to other people’s help. Parents who are grieving or suffering from the loss of a child custody dispute are justified in asking for help from others, but not justified in demanding it from anyone.

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Is it good for my marriage if we live with my mother in law?

Not necessarily.

While it may not be common in the U.S.A. for adult married children to live with their parents or their parents to live with their adult married children, in many other cultures it is common, acceptable, and even considered sensible and honorable for multiple generations to live under the same roof with each other.

Even in the U.S., it is quite common for a widowed mother to live in the same household with her son or daughter who is married, so that the son or daughter can provide support and care for the widowed mother, who may also be elderly, in poverty, and/or in declining health and thus in need of financial support and physical care. in these circumstances, having your mother-in-law live with you may be a moral imperative.

Still, if there is so much friction between you and your mother-in-law as to make living together under the same roof miserable for everyone, then having your mother-in-law live with you and your spouse could be more trouble than it is worth. this is unfortunate when such circumstances arise, because the mother-in-law may really need the help that living with you provides. If you simply don’t like the idea of your mother-in-law living with you, you may need to sacrifice your personal desires for the greater good until your mother-in-law either moves out of her own accord or dies of old age.

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